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Does your little one hate having their hair brushed? My daughter absolutely hates her hair brushed. She has long, thin hair that goes to her lower back and she loves it, calls it her Rapunzel hair, but when it comes time for brushing and styling her hair she would start crying. I don’t mean a few tears and a pout face, I mean sobbing crying with tears pouring out of her eyes, boogers everywhere and a squeal every time I got to a knot. It would make me feel so bad because I remember when I was younger and hated my hair brushed.
She would always ask if I could do her hair later on but I knew she meant never. Her hair is also always in her face and I don’t want it in a ponytail all the time. I love braiding and doing her hair and she loves the way it looks when I am done but hates when I am doing it. I knew I had to figure out a way to brush her hair without the anxiety and tears.
Of course, I asked friends and family what they do with their kids and no one really had a solution that worked but a lot of them seemed to have the same problem. One friend suggested letting her watch TV while I brushed her hair but she doesn’t really get sucked into shows so it didn’t really distract her enough. I tried quite a few things until I found what really worked.
6 Steps to No Tears
- When showering I use conditioner, I do not use a shampoo and conditioner that is combined these just don’t make her hair smooth. I also don’t use baby shampoo on her anymore but I do try to find ones that are gentle. Most important is to find a condition that really makes her hair smooth and silky feeling. My favorite is L’Oreal Paris Ever Pure. It is Sulfate free, vegan and it leaves both of our hair feeling skilly and shiny.
- Do not brush or comb their hair when it is wet. If I wait till her hair is dry the brush or comb goes through much easier. Also, hair breaks more easily when it is wet so this helps keep her hair looking healthy. You are going to want to use a brush that is soft but not to soft so it will get through the knots. I usually use a nylon brush like this one.
- Always use detangler. I have found some work better than others. This Barbie Detangler is our favorite and it smells so good.
- When brushing I start at the tips and work my way up. I hold the hair higher up so if there is a knot I can stop it from pulling on her scalp.
- This is the Most effective step – I brush her hair in the bathroom and fill the sink with water and then put her bath toys in there so she is distracted while I brush. This step truly helps the most she loves water and has so much fun playing in the water she doesn’t seem to care that I am brushing. She still says ow when she has a knot but there are no tears. If your child loves to play in the water this should really help.
- Always try to braid her hair before bed. This way when she is tossing and turning at night her hair doesn’t get knotted or matted. When I take her hair out in the morning there are maybe two knots in her hair but nothing too bad. This also leaves her hair wavy like it was curled so it looks like I took time to do it.
That is it, these are the easy five steps I take. I really wish I would have figured out number five earlier. She still asks for me to brush her hair later but once I fill up that sink she doesn’t mind. I really hope this helps you and your little ones during brush time. I would love to hear what you guys do to keep your little ones from hating to have their hairbrush.